Greetings dearest friends & readers 🖤
On the 31st of August, the official last day of Winter here at the bottom of the world, my beloved Mum's Circle of Life came to a close. As she took her final breath, I was there by her side holding her hand, patting her head & playing her favourite song. I told Mum that it was okay to go & be with Dad now, to be well & happy & healthy again. That's how I like to think of them now ... together after 22 years apart.
When Mum met Dad he was fresh out of the Armed Forces & not ready to settle down. She loved him & waited patiently ... eventually they got engaged, married & moved up to Taranaki to begin their new life together.
They became parents to my brother & I - & built a house at Number 44 where Mum was to live for the next 61 years of her life.
|(Mum is on the left in both photos)|
Born & raised in the Manawatu area, Mum was the 3rd eldest of 11 siblings! Her favourite always, was her older sister Margaret, gone 6 years now. They remained close all of their lives.
Mum was always neat & immaculate - both in her appearance And especially in her Home.
Together we were lucky enough to do 4 trips to Australia over the ensuing years - we both thoroughly enjoyed these trips immensely, visiting two of Mum's brothers.
|Youngest Son Kayne & wife Nicole on left & eldest son Aaron & wife Sarah with Mum on right - taken April 2022 - Mums 93rd birthday !|
Mum loved being Nan to my 2 sons & was delighted when she was able to attend both their weddings, 8 & 9 years ago now.
I absolutely LoVe this photo above & we used this on Mum's service sheet for her funeral 💗
Taken at a re-union lunch in the Bay of Plenty almost 7 years ago now - the last remaining siblings of the 11, both Mum & Aunty Marg (seated centre) now passed away.
Mum (reluctantly) entered Resthome Care last June (aged 93) & these photos were taken then. Altogether Mum was in the Resthome for 15 months.
When I cleared out No. 44 for sale last February, I came across this plastic Shampoo Product bag & put it in my brother's Safe. After Mum's passing we opened it & along with Birth Certificates & Mum's Will, it contained all her requests for her Funeral arrangements ... the Undertaker she wished to use, the Venue, the type of Casket she wanted, the Flowers, the Music/songs played & the Poem to be read out - it was incredible!
I think Mum would've been very pleased with her Farewell ... I think she may Not have been so pleased at all the cousins that came out of the woodwork, some she had not seen for well over 22 years! I will never understand why people do this - yet they can't even pick up a phone & say Hello - how are you?! I had to use my not-so-nice-voice a number of times to bring it all back to the small private service that Mum wanted.
Even though I had mentally prepared myself for Mum's passing for quite some time, I still cannot get my head around that she is no longer here. I jump when my phone rings, thinking it may be the Resthome. I hear some news & I think Oh I must tell Mum that. Plus I have been hit by a wave of exhaustion (or maybe grief) since my return home again.
Anyway dearest friends ... although I have a head full of fluff, I will endeavour to return to blogland again & catch up on all your posts.
Thank you sincerely, if you have stayed through this lengthy post - I wanted to write this Eulogy for myself more than anything but in all honesty, how do you cover 94 years - it would take 10 blog posts! A dear friend sent me this little Verse last week & I thought how perfect. 💙
Wishing you a wonderful week ahead dear friends - remember to be kind to yourself & to each other ... & I hope you find those Glimmers in your week,
With much love & friendship to you all,
Julie & the Furry Three x0x0x0 🐱😸😺